Thoughts On: Beauty

Like all Mommies, I think my kids are beautiful. Of course we think our kids are beautiful. And really, they all are. Full of life, full of questions, full of jokes, full of attitude, small, beautiful humans. Since the first moment I walked outside the hospital with little Picky Princess, people have crossed the street to tell me what a beautiful child she is. And while I see what they do in her magical face, the things I find so beautiful about her are the things that come with 6 years of observation. I think the one freckle so perfectly placed under her right eye is so beautiful. I love that she is a wild mess most of the time, crazy haired and rainbow clad. I love how her pristine face stands out as a pocket of white paint on a graffiti’d canvas. I love the moments when she laughs for real. In those moments I find her too beautiful to look directly at. When she sleeps I can hardly tear my eyes away from her little face. It’s so white it glows.

It’s also interesting to me how a child, particularly a girl, processes all this attention. With a big wide world telling her she is so beautiful, she definitely has come to agree. She is quick to comment on being beautiful, yet doesn’t necessarily seem to place a lot of value on it. She will say, Of course I’m beautiful, with the same matter of fact tone of, Of course my socks are blue. She doesn’t seek to enhance it with tiaras and make up and princess dresses. At least not very often.

It’s important, how little girls wade through the beauty topic. It’s important what she sees in the women around her. For every comment I hear someone make to her about her beautiful blue eyes, I try to make my own to her about her incredible creativity, her kindness to her little sister, her willingness to help. The things that make her a Beautiful Soul, not just a Beautiful Face. I think my friends are some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen. But even in how I talk about them to my girls, I try to comment on their beautiful character, that they are great listeners and generous friends.

I believe in a family culture of honor. When, God forbid, the meanness of the world creeps in and tells her anything other than that she’s beautiful, my hope is that a lifetime of being honored for the beauty of her soul, will resound louder and longer than the crack of the hurtful.

So tonight we have dinner in honor of our recent Kindergarten Graduate! She has requested sea bass(of course, most random request ever) and caramel cake. So we have fish tacos, salsa verde, watermelon and caramel cake on the menu. I made THIS caramel cake from Deb at Smitten Kitchen, and whipped up a twist on salsa verde, recipe below. Tonight our family who are friends and friends who are family will gather and honor the Beautiful: that her teacher said she was kind and inclusive, that she was a strong leader, that she is incredibly artistic, that she worked hard to learn how to read and speak spanish and sing harmonies. A little Beautiful Soul (with incredible beautiful blue eyes).

Salsa Verde:

10 small tomatillos

1/2 jalapeno, most of the seeds removed

juice of 2 limes

large handful of cilantro

1 mango

sea salt to taste

Directions: chop all ingredients very finely. Stir together. Best if left to sit overnight. Serve with tortilla chips or on fish tacos!


7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Lynnel
    Jun 29, 2012 @ 12:26:52

    Well written and dare I say even beautiful! I totally agree on all your thoughts on beauty in the world. you also are a beautiful soul.


  2. Kristy-Anne
    Jun 29, 2012 @ 15:41:44

    Beautiful Beautiful words. Loved this. You are an amazing mother, to amazing girls.


  3. sybaritica
    Jul 01, 2012 @ 10:05:56

    Do you think canned tomatillos would work or would that not capture the effect properly?


  4. Karen
    Jul 01, 2012 @ 13:39:13

    I love how you put it all in perspective for me. You are so right on about the whole beauty dialogue. Thanks for a great post:)


  5. Treasure Your Health
    Aug 12, 2012 @ 22:05:30

    Thank you for sharing the tender way you guide your precious little one through the beauty experience. I’ve thought a lot about the crippling social beauty standards too many accept without thought or consideration. I cringe when I think of the person who sits, stands, lives on the other side of those standards. It’s a place of excruciating pain for many of them. I grew up in a family of beautiful women, especially my Mom. Mom was quick to say, “Beauty is as beauty does.” That remark could deflate the most stringent of egos.

    Your daughter is lucky she has a mother who is watching and listening from a place of depth and innerstanding. Your daughter gets to consider your thoughtful words in the deluge of empty ones cast upon her by many who really feel her “beauty” is her ticket to a life entitled to, if not filled with, love. They couldn’t be farther from the truth. Thank goodness you are teaching her otherwise. She may now look at the plumb little girl or boy and see value in who they are, not how they look. Thank you, too, for reminding your readers to reconsider their standards of beauty as well. Bless all our precious Souls that we may know they are truly precious.

    Oh, and thanks for the recipe! 🙂


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